The S/ Experience Team invites you to dedicate a weekend to the theme of your sexuality - learning, discovering and exploring in a special and exciting group atmosphere.
The workshop is aimed at all men who feel that their erotic life can be improved. Many of us are stuck in routines, like for example:
- Repeating learned patterns or patterns that have been successful in the past
- heavy porn consumption and associated fixation on certain visual patterns
- try to reproduce porn actions (which, however, do not suit potential sex partners)
Although the routines provide security on the one hand, they also severely restrict the possible pleasure.
As the sexual experience and the needs change over the years, the old patterns often no longer match the current needs.
Sexperience is the laboratory in which a wide spectrum of different sensual and erotic experiences can be experienced in a supportive group.
Depending on the course we will go out together once or twice to the gay scene. In the connection with the group you can collect new experiences and realize your fantasies.
You will learn from Gay Love Spirit Trainers and make many experiences together with the men in the group...
Note: All the listed experiences are examples of what you can expect when visiting this workshop. The experiences will depend and the group of men coming together. The trainers will adapt this Workshop according to participants needs.
A. For your practical skills:
1. Empowering your Main Tool
- Learn and practise to have sensual, long lasting and strong masturbation sessions
- how to prepare yourself for a good f***
2. Exploring your Anus
- Learning about your anus
- Getting in touch with your anus
- Learning and exploring giving and receiving sensual and deep anal massages
- Learning to communicate and to trust in sexual encounters
3. Breathing and Suc****
- Breathing techniques
- Sucking techniques – according to the 10 golden rules for perfect bl** jobs
B. For your social and communicative skills
- Creating little supportive structures go out with friends to feel secure, having fun and be playfull in public spaces
- Practising meaningfull „sensual homework“ in a gay sauna together with your friends
C. Setting a safe space for sexuality in your life
- Setting hygenic standards in the group space that allows everybody to feel as safe as possible – beeing at the same time joyfull and playfull with hygene and Safer Sex
- Sharing and learning about sexual transmitted deaseases (STD)
- Learn about how pornography effects your sex life
- Using Porn in a meaningfull way to enrich your sex life
- Discover and may be re-discover your sexual personality
- „Lets talk about sex“
We set up opportunities to practice these skills with a lot of playfullness in an atmosphere of trust, friendship and discovery. We will use breath, touch, movement, sound and sensual experience as doorways into a freer and more fulfilling sexuality.
We will work with the desires and growth of each participant, emphasizing individual freedom of choice and accountability. You will have to opportunity to learn and to practise with a large variety of men. These men will not often meet your dream fantasies – but this is one of the challenges in our learning enviroment. On the ofter hand, you will have always the opportunity to stepp back a bit, stay for some moments in the silent Love Lounge and come back into the playroom when you are ready again.
Why a groupworkshop?
Each man in the group has his own weaknesses and strong points in dealing with sex. Observe how others deal with the topics you still have troubles with, and you will find solutions for your own themes. You are welcome to share your own experiences with the group so that others can benefit from them.
Eros and Spirituality
One of our guidelines is: We create a safe framework in which men can consciously develop in the interplay of sex and spirit. Men from many countries and with very different backgrounds come to our Sexperience workshops. If you have a great interest in sexual topics, but so far have no contact with modern spirituality, feel invited anyway - we are open to all people, even those who rather call themselves rationalists, atheists, enlightened, technology and progress enthusiasts - but we also wish from them an openness towards us and our methods.
The most important thing for our common successful journey through the experiences in an intensive workshop is the openness with which we will go together into new experiences and the mutual respect.
Before you start - The time between booking and the workshop
After booking S/ Experience online, you will get a first automatic confirmation email with the technical details of the workshop and a questionnaire which will be detailed concerning your own needs and desires. In addition, you will receive an access code to our little web-cloud.
In the Web-cloud you will find more than 40 filmclips and movies for download. Please watch them and comment them. There is a small evaluation sheet for the porn-scoring. We recommend you to do this becauseit is a big advantage if you know what excites you and what does not. In addition there are some basic texts and we would like that you please read before your arrival.
Depending on your own sexual history, we ask you to do a general STD-Check 2-3 weeks prior to the workshop.
What is included in the workshop fee?
- The tuition fee
- Drinks
- All the supplies we need, condoms, lube, gloves, etc
What is not included - Your extra money for:
- All transportation in Berlin, Cologne, Madrid or Vienna (depending on your choices between 13 and 30 Euros)
- Some entrance fees for Sauna, Sexclub, some drinks there
- Overnight stay. See the specific event for more info
- Some food at lunchtime and in the nightlife (from Vegie Döner to Currywurst)
Interviews for S/ Experience:
Sexperience, interview with Thomas
21/1/2014
In which way does Sexperience differ from the other workshops?
In the Sexperience workshop we confront you during four days with many aspects of sexuality. In other workshops we try to show you new ways of getting erotic and good sexual experiences. In the Sexperience we focus on all the ‘normal’/usual/habitual practices of our sexlife. We practice them from different angles and afterwards there is a process of digesting and learning about it.
To integrate sex in workshop means breaking social rules, because sex is something we either we do in a couple/threesome or we do it with more anonymous with people in a darkroom or a sauna.
What is the main goal?
The main goal behind the workshop is that there is a way for you to get at ease with your sexdrive. A sexdrive can be something positive, creative and does not have to be destructive. We invented this workshop because for many people sexdrive is linked with a lot of destructive patterns of behavior.
Can you tell us more about that?
Over the years we noticed the following in a lot of our workshops: We try to make doors to another sexuality… by doing conscious touch, tantra massage, ….. When we see people developing in our workshop, we see they learn something new, but still often the old patterns of sexuality stay. It’s like opening up another world, but not really coming in piece with the old world. Sexperience is something you can dive in and it can you an opportunity too confront yourself with this. It gives you the opportunity to get a very happy sexuality, a normal sexuality, whatever that means.
What kind of old patterns do people get caught up in?
From all dealing with clients and individual sessions and learning through the men that are coming to the workshops, there are basically 7 different traps we can step into when we are living our sexlife:
- The trap of guilt and shame coming from religion. This provokes us to hide, to have sex in the dark and to be not allowed to enjoy it. That creates a lot of strange behavior, like a lot of the priests in the Catholic church who start to abuse young boys …
- The second one is the romantic trap. If we are not allowed to really explore sex as we want, we might start to copy the Hollywood films: fall in love, be romantic and exclusive in order to try to fulfill a picture and think that sexuality is fulfilled than. The inner taught is often: If I am part of a romantic couple, I can be gay and be recognized by society. But it works for six months and gets boring.
- The third trap is the sex machine: You move from city to city and fuck around as much as you can. You can get trapped into this repetitive behavior of something that originally might have given satisfaction.
- The connection of drugs and sex. Drugs can give you the impression that your sex experience is deeper or give you the self-esteem to have sex, but the effect after sometime is that people can’t have sex without drugs and eventually need more or stronger substances.
- The fifth one is related to the second. We call it ‘the gay idol’. Once out, have your gay marriage, do it all the gay way like in the magazines, copy the idols, look what car the other gays drive, go to the popular parties, go to the gym and ask the neighbor what party is on. Have sex the same way.
- Six is ‘the black hole’ or the porn industry. When your are sitting in front of the screen every evening, looking at more and more porn in order to get aroursed… you loose the real connection to another body.
- Trap number 7 is getting stuck in a trauma connected to sex and being unable to have normal sexlife … Sometimes this results in extreme unhealthy behavior that can be damaging to yourself.
We really make awareness about those traps and check where you are at now. We let you experience that you have a lot of beautiful possibilities to get out of the trap and have a fulfilled joyful sexuality without drugs and unhealthy patterns.
Is it good as a first workshop?
It depends on your ability to open up. For people who need a lot of trust to open up, it might be better to choose another workshop first. Any other workshop that deals with intimacy, sexuality and touch, such as Playful Eros, Mysterium and so many other ones.
Why does it feel so heavy as a gay men not have a fulfilled sexuality?
In the process of coming out, we develop our own character of being different, of being the 3th or 4th gender. And sex is strongly connected with that phase. As a gay man, I have the taught that I have to have fulfilled sexuality to be a gay man, to be part of the tribe. So if I don’t have a happy sexual life, I don’t feel complete.
You take the group ‘Out in the scene’? What are people’s experiences?
The most often heard comment on that is: “With the group I had another experience of a sexclub or a sauna.” “It changed my way of being in the scene. When being connected with a group, going out is a total different story then going out alone.
How about borders and communication?
It is like in every workshop: you can always step out, withdraw in the love lounge, watch all of it and come back when you feel fine. It is very important to have that possibility because if we are into sex, often things happen which we cannot control. It can either be very gorgeous and subtle or something might happen and I need my own space. Maybe because it’s boring or it triggers things deep inside. We teach that you always should be responsible over yourself and be the master over yourself even in sexual encounters.